A Communiqué  ·  May 2, 2026  ·  Naperville & Batavia, IL

Attending the Bachelor Party of Alexander K. Falls

We screamed. We cried. We ate a hot dog (or five).
A complete and faithful account of what is about to happen to you.

Can an itinerary capture an event so completely life-changing? Read on and agree see.

I had resigned myself to planning a mediocre bachelor party. The odds of true greatness had seemed too steep. And then—a vision. A revelation. A Google Maps route through the western suburbs that made a mockery of all I had seen before.

A lesser occasion might have warranted a gift card or a trip to Chili's. But this is no mere birthday, briss, or quinceañera. It is a bachelor party. One for the ages. Alex will arrive as one person and leave as another. Indeed, he will be a better person—someone who has truly been through something significant, bearing the worn certainty of someone who ate a Portillo's Italian beef on the precipice of matrimony and stared into the void and found it delicious. Behold, the schedule.

The route
Naperville → Portillo's  ·  Activate Games    Batavia → Crosstown  ·  Comedy Vault  ·  Sturdy Shelter
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12:00 pm  ·  First stop
Portillo's
1992 W Jefferson Ave, Naperville, IL 60540
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We assemble. We greet one another with the slightly overwhelmed warmth of people who care deeply but have not yet had lunch. And then—beef. The Italian beef, dipped, the hot dogs, the cheese fries arriving with an unquestionable authority, the chocolate cake shake standing as proof that somewhere a God exists and she has strong opinions about dessert. We eat with a reverence appropriate to the occasion. We are filling up. We are becoming. Flourishing. Self-actualizing. Alex will order something completely normal and we will all silently admire his composure.
1:30 pm  ·  Second stop
Activate Games
804 Rte 59, Naperville, IL 60540
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We enter as civilians. We exit, two hours later, as something else entirely—people who have been through rooms together, who have solved things, who have pressed illuminated buttons with an urgency that felt genuinely important to the fate of the free world. The rooms will meet you exactly where you are. There will be a leaderboard. There will be consequences. But not really. Just fun.
Wear comfortable clothes and closed-toe shoes.
The foam cowboy hat procurer is watching the leaderboard. Conduct yourself accordingly.
4:30 pm  ·  Third stop
Crosstown Pub & Grill
1890 Mill St, Batavia, IL 60510
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We cross into Batavia. The Fox River does not stop us. We do what Napoleon could not. We arrive at Crosstown, where the wings are good and the atmosphere is the kind of genuine, unpretentious warmth. Did I mention wings? There are many. They challenge us, sitting there in their saucy garb. "Surely, you can't eat that many," they cackle. But they are wrong. There is great violence and gnashing of teeth. The cries of the fallen are silenced. We raise a glass—preferably, with something in it—to Alex. Someone will say something sincere and everyone will pretend they don't feel it. But they feel it. And everyone knows.
6:00 pm  ·  Fourth stop
The Comedy Vault
18 E Wilson St, Batavia, IL 60510
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We descend into the Vault. Into the dark. Into the hallowed compact between comedian and audience—that ancient agreement that for the next two hours you will surrender your defenses and accept what is offered. Tonight's comedian is AJ Wilkerson: from Florida. We will be a tremendous audience. Alex, as a marked individual, may be pointed at. He will survive it. We may not. Your safety is not guaranteed.
21+, valid ID required. 2-item minimum—non-alcoholic options available. Doors at 6:00 PM, show at 7:00 PM.
8:00 pm+  ·  Final stop
Sturdy Shelter Brewing
10 Shumway Ave, Batavia, IL 60510
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We find shelter, and it is sturdy. A welcoming riverfront space with something for every taste—and if your taste runs toward something other than beer entirely, that is a perfectly valid and respected choice. The conversation goes long, as it should. Someone will tell an old story. Someone else will one-up it. We stay as long as we should, then a little longer. We let it be what it is.
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Two cities. Five stops. Many hotdogs. One Alex.

You now know what's coming. We'll see you there.

— John
Best Man  ·  Officiant of Chaos  ·  Chairman of the Order of Order

P.S. The foam cowboy hats are not optional. This was decided without a vote.

FOAM
Official Documentation  ·  First & Final Edition

Frequently Asked Questions

The Office of the Best Man has received a number of questions in advance of the May 2nd proceedings. Many of these questions were reasonable. Some were not. All are addressed herein with the gravity and thoroughness they deserve. Please read carefully before submitting further inquiries, as The Office is operating at capacity.

Logistics & Practical Matters
Practical
What should I wear?
Something you could eat a Portillo's Italian beef in without anxiety. Super casual. If you are debating between two outfits and one of them requires dry cleaning, choose the other one. The only dress code is closed-toe shoes for Activate Games. And the hat. The hat goes with everything. This is the entire point of foam.
Practical
How do I pay you back for tickets and activities?
The Office of the Best Man accepts reimbursement via Zelle or personal check. Zelle is preferred as it arrives immediately and does not require The Office to locate a pen. If paying by check, please make it out to John and do not post-date it as an act of revenge.
Practical
Can I bring a guest?
No. This event is curated. The guest list was assembled with care, intention, and at least one spreadsheet. Plus-ones are not permitted, not because we don't like your people, but because this particular configuration of people on this particular night has been specifically designed, and we are not accepting modifications at this time.
Practical
Is transportation provided?
It is not. You are responsible for getting yourself between stops. Carpooling among attendees is encouraged and is, frankly, part of the experience. Please do not drive if you've been drinking.
Practical
Who pays for meals and drinks?
What you put in your body is between you and your wallet.
Practical
Do I have to drink alcohol?
Absolutely not. Drinking is entirely optional and the goal of this day is not intoxication—it is celebration, which is a different thing entirely and requires your full faculties. Every stop has non-alcoholic options. Nobody will notice, nobody will comment, and if they do, The Office of the Best Man will handle it.
Practical
The Comedy Vault requires a valid government ID. What counts?
A driver's license, passport, or state ID. A library card does not count. A very convincing argument probably does not count.
Practical
What are the job duties of a groomsperson?
Historically speaking, groomspeople served as protectors of the couple—chosen not for their charm or their ability to coordinate a color scheme, but for their willingness to fight. In ancient times, groomsmen were essentially a private military force, selected for their combat skills to defend against kidnapping, rival families, hostile neighbors, and evil spirits. They guarded the bride's dowry, secured the perimeter during the ceremony, and in some traditions actively assisted in what historians delicately call "marriage by capture." They were, in short, a groom's army. Today, The Office of the Best Man is pleased to report that the role has been significantly updated. Your duties are: show up, be present, wear the hat, and do not let Alex pay for anything. No sword required (daggers, spears, and regalia with magical properties are encouraged). Evil spirits remain your own responsibility.
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A Note on Ethics
Submitted Question
Has The Office of the Best Man considered the ethical implications of partying this hard?
It has, at length, and from several angles.

From a Kantian perspective, this bachelor party presents immediate difficulties. Ask yourself: what if everyone, upon the occasion of their closest friend's impending marriage, simply dropped everything and committed fully to a day of escalating celebration on behalf of another person? The maxim cannot be universalized. Society would collapse. Nobody would go to work on Mondays. The postal service would cease to function. Kant would have been horrified, which is consistent with everything else we know about Kant.

The utilitarian calculus is similarly troubled. On one side of the ledger: the aggregate joy produced across an entire day, shared among a carefully curated group of people who genuinely like one another, on behalf of someone who deserves a good day. On the other: the cumulative disruption to the ordinary rhythms of a Saturday, the opportunity costs borne by an entire metropolitan area, and—if we are being honest with ourselves—the sheer tonnage of happiness concentrated in one place at one time, which cannot possibly be sustainable at a societal level. The math does not favor us. Bentham would have had concerns. Mill would have written about them at length.

Aristotle argued that eudaimonia is achieved through moderation, the golden mean, the careful balance between excess and deficiency. He called excessive indulgence a vice. He was, by all accounts, quite firm on this point. The Office of the Best Man has reviewed the itinerary against Aristotle's framework and found that five stops, culminating in an open-ended evening at a riverfront brewery, does not obviously constitute the golden mean. It constitutes something closer to the golden maximum. Aristotle did not have foam cowboy hats, but The Office suspects he would have had thoughts about them.

Finally, there's Nietzsche. Sweet, sweet Nietzsche. He argued that the highest human aspiration is the will to power—the relentless drive to overcome, to transcend, to become more than what one was. He also warned against Dionysian excess, the intoxicating chaos of pure revelry untempered by Apollonian reason and form. He believed that those who stare too long into the abyss risk becoming the abyss. He suffered a complete mental collapse at the age of 44. The Office of the Best Man draws no conclusions (though you certainly can). The Office merely notes that he never attended a bachelor party, and that this may have been the wisest decision he ever made.

The Office of the Best Man therefore concludes, reluctantly and on the basis of the foregoing analysis, that this party is ethically indefensible. We are going anyway. Chocolate cake shakes, y'all. Also, the hats have been procured.

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Further Inquiries
Submitted Question
Is the foam cowboy hat mandatory?
The foam cowboy hats are not optional. The Office thanks you for your continued interest in this subject and nonetheless considers the matter closed.
Submitted Question
What if I am bad at Activate's games?
Your performance will be a matter of public record. What you do with that information is your business. Just kidding, nothing—we're only there to have fun.
Submitted Question
What if I am very good at Activate's games?
Then you will have to live with that for the rest of your life.
Submitted Question
Does Alex know about any of this?
He does now. Hi, Alex.
Submitted Question
What if my foam cowboy hat is lost, stolen, damaged, soiled, sat upon, rained on, confiscated, melted, toasted, pan fried, boiled, pickled, bisected, defensetrated, deatomized, consumed by wildlife, or otherwise rendered unwearable?
There will not be a replacement. Guard yours accordingly.
Submitted Question
Can I leave early?
The Office of the Best Man respects your autonomy. That said, Sturdy Shelter Brewing is the final stop and the one most likely to produce the kind of conversation you will still be thinking about in six months. Early departure is permitted, but not recommended.
Submitted Question
What if I cry?
This is a safe space, and we are not interested in perpetuating generational traumas. All the feels are welcome. Also, remember: We screamed. We cried. It's in the tagline. You will be in good company.
Submitted Question
To whom do I address complaints?
Complaints may be submitted in writing to The Office of the Best Man, where they will be received warmly, read carefully, and placed in a dedicated folder labeled "Noted." Complaints may also be submitted via The Office's online portal. Response times are not guaranteed. Resolution is unlikely. The Office thanks you in advance for your patience and understanding. Whatever you do: please don't tell the bride. Seriously. Don't. I mean it, don't. SERIOUSLY!
Submitted Question
Who do I contact if I have additional questions not covered here?
The Office of the Best Man is reachable via normal channels. Please note that The Office is staffed by one person who is also planning a bachelor party, and response times may vary. For urgent matters, try texting John. For non-urgent matters, also try texting John, but manage your expectations.
Submitted Question
Is this FAQ legally binding?
Yes.
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